I used to weigh 20 kilos more than I do now. I was uncomfortable and I felt ashamed.
Then I lost the 20kilos and got down to the ‘perfect weight’ and you know what?
I still felt uncomfortable and still, I was not satisfied…
How was that possible?
We live in a society which profits from the doubts we have about ourselves.
Media are feeding us with an image of perfection which is not possible to attain.
The result is that millions of women all around the world are suffering with negative feelings of shame, guilt, frustration, failure and inferiority.
This affects all areas of our life.
It affects our relationships, our sexuality, our free time – holidays on beach, or time with friends, it even affects our work and physical health.
Our negative perception of ‘self’ is creating permanent tension and stress in our body.
This is draining our energy and it can even cause auto immune disease.
Then in desperation, women are throwing themselves into drastic diets and self torturing practices and sometimes even under the knife.
But does it help?
Did you know, that the women who are considered to be the most beautiful in the world, also have objections to their bodies?
How it is possible, that even the most perfect beauty is not satisfied with herself?
It is because we carry inside of us beliefs and judgments about how we “should” look and we do not accept ourselves the way we are. These beliefs were given to us by society and the media.
Do you have a feeling you should loose or gain weight? Your breasts are too small or too big? Or you have a feeling that you need a surgery?
Most of these beliefs we carry for our whole life.
So for our whole life we suffer considerably discontent and frustration with our-self. We keep ourselves in the illusion that later on, when I lose weight, or later on when I do more exercise, or later on when… then I can finally feel good, sexy, satisfied, relaxed and self confident.
But the ‘later on’ never comes…
So what to do? How do we deal with this?
Do not wait for some ‘later on’ – feel comfortable now!
My true change came when I discovered techniques that were deeply reprogramming my attitude to myself and to my body.
And the beautiful feeling of love towards my body was so delightful… I felt so comfortable and relaxed… like I’d come home. I fell in love with myself again. I had the feeling to hug and caress myself. I felt so good and free… even with all the seeming imperfections.
I felt as if I was the most beautiful woman in the whole world. As if there was a shining luminescent light from inside of myself.
Even my friends noticed.
I started getting compliments about how amazing I was looking, how I was shining and also that I looked younger…
And then I realized that the problem was not in the way I looked, it was in the way I saw and perceived myself.
Instead of dieting, do something else for your-self, something loving, something real.
Erase negative perceptions of your body and fall in love with it again..
This is where I come in, I can help you with this.
I have a very easy technique which helps to change your attitude towards yourself:
Love and hate list:
On paper make two columns. If you are doing this alone at home, stand naked in front of a mirror. Look at your body for 5 minutes and then write the list.
In the left column write everything you do not like about yourself or even hate about yourself – it can be physical, mental, emotional, the qualities of your character…. Be brutally honest. It is your own process. No-one else will read this list.
Into second column write everything you love about yourself.
Look at the list and into the mirror. Is it possible to erase something from the hate list? Is it possible to add something on the love list?
Continue this way for 15 minutes. Then leave it and come back to it later. Continue for about three times per week till there is nothing left on the hate list and love list is very long.
Do not add things on the hate list. When you finish this process, you can repeat it as a new meditation if you feel you need or want to.
It is a process. Do not just write the love list.
This technique is very simple but extremely powerful. When you see it this way just written down, it can appear a little ‘dry’. But when you start really doing it, things start happening… big things.
It is not enough to know that we should love ourselves. It is something that has to be re-programmed deeply in our being.
Get rid of feelings of shame, guilt, frustration, failure and inferiority.
Imagine how it would be to feel comfortable, sexy, content, relaxed and self-confident?
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Amrita – Tantra teacher and holistic therapist